Women happy dating older men

Only yesterday I tried to convince John that it was perfectly acceptable for him to date a younger woman (he thought he was as old as her father and did not feel that it was ethical to date her). What I am seeing is that women these days are (1) not just hot" to keep a man . It means that our behavior, intelligence, and feelings are more important than the perfect figure. I am 17, and I think I am very mature. I have a 35-year old boyfriend and we are very happy together. Our relationship is going perfectly, but I would like to know if the age difference will be a problem in the future (we are planning to live together)."

My answer to Berenice is the same as I told John. We have now evolved to a point that we no longer believe in the outdated idea that only two people in the same age bracket can have a great relationship. A relationship is much more than just talking about shared experiences. In fact, what I am finding is that couples with age difference can bring a lot of new dimensions to a relationship. Sometimes even a generational gap can be beneficial because it shows the other person how interesting the other generation can be. Couple after couple is telling us that large age gap is no longer a problem and they feel just fine in a relationship where the other partner could very well be from a different generation.

Finally, let us also answer Berenice's question about the future and I am going to quote from what April Masini thinks on the topic. She is not yet talking about marriage (only living together) but what happens when she is just 40 and he is already 58. Will she feel that she still has so many youthful years to look forward while he might be approaching is old age. (Related article: Relationship with younger wife)

April Masini, a contributor to our network of websites, recently spoke to Margot C. Lester of MSN. “There is actually quite a bit that young women have to offer older men besides looks alone,” Masini says. “On the most obvious level, there’s that fun, young energy they have. There’s naiveté, which can be attractive when compared with the cynicism of some older women. There’s a playfulness — a lack of the seriousness that can sometimes accompany being an adult and having responsibility. And, for some men, there’s the fact that these young girls look up to them — as father figures and as mentors. That, in and of itself, is very attractive. If the relationship is… based on the man being a sort of father or mentor figure, problems can – and likely will – arise once [the younger woman] really begins to grow and come into her own. Even for couples where there is little-to-no age discrepancy, people often grow in different directions, leading to the dissolution of the relationship. Like any child breaking away from a parent, she may want to establish more of an independent life, depending on him less and less, perhaps even becoming resentful toward him for the power he has wielded over her. The man she once looked up to begins to become more and more insecure, more possessive, more demanding and more needy as he tries to regain control of the relationship and her. Not only is he unable to regain his position of power in the relationship — he succeeds in driving her away for good. If he simply likes the physical attraction or energy of a younger woman with little concern for what lies beneath the surface, both parties should beware. Fortunately, there are some [women] out there who have their lives together, who are not looking for a father figure, and who just find the stability, wisdom, and maturity of an older man attractive. But if he’s drawn to girls who will idolize and defer to him, he enters into these relationships at his own risk – knowing full-well these can only go so far or last for so long.”

This is what Berenice should watch out for. Why is she attracted to her boyfriend? Because he comes across as the wise man who knows it all and will take care of her? Or is it because they just happen to have the chemistry that brought them together without age being an issue? Does Berenice think that she knows what she is doing, she has thought about the future, and she is stable enough to fight the challenges of any relationship? In my opinion, it is not a good idea to think so far into the future. I have seen relationships of couples with no age difference fall apart in no time. So if Berenice and her boyfriend think that they have the perfect relationship, I see no reason for them to worry at all and just enjoy every beautiful moment of it right now.